this has nothing to do with whether i love my wife.
i always will.. pragmatically, i have come to the devastating conclusion that i don't want to be married to a jw.
any jw.. she asked me last night, "so, do you believe in santa clause, now?
Then that is a statement whereby
Expectations need to be brought in line with reality.
If my expectation of my son is that he will become president of the US, than anything short of that will result in dissapointment.
However if my expectation is that my son has good morals, is a good person, goes to college and gets a degree then there is no dissapointment.
I love my son with all of my heart either way.
You are a dissapointment only because of an flawed or outdated expectation.
this has nothing to do with whether i love my wife.
i always will.. pragmatically, i have come to the devastating conclusion that i don't want to be married to a jw.
any jw.. she asked me last night, "so, do you believe in santa clause, now?
Auld Soul
If that is the case then you are like thousands if not millions of couples. For any number of reasons, change of job, change of religion, change of address, the DNA we are born with, you feel you are a dissapoinment to your wife, yet she thinks the world of you. Women are loyal beyond belief, in a way that most guys are not capable of grasping, at least I wasn't....initially. Again this is why I think marriage counseling is critical.
this has nothing to do with whether i love my wife.
i always will.. pragmatically, i have come to the devastating conclusion that i don't want to be married to a jw.
any jw.. she asked me last night, "so, do you believe in santa clause, now?
When I was a JW, she used to cry about me not being a Ministerial Servant or Elder. I would ask what difference the title makes, and she would explain it was about respect. So, I would ask her who it was that she thought was lacking in respect for me. She said it wasn't that, it was how much she felt like I deserved to be ... then she would trail off
When I first read this, I pictured a wife who had so much love and respect for her husband that she felt he deserved as much recognition as he could possibly get. When I read your posts it is obvious that you could run circles around most people when it comes to bible topics.
You have so much support from people on this forum for essentially the same reason. Everyone believes in you and wants the best for you.
Please keep in mind that with married couples where emotions (anger included) run high, many times it is because there IS so much love there.
To me the best solution is a marriage counseler. When someone on this forum challenges you Auld Soul, you don't give up immediately, you keep coming back with your convictions. Your wife says no to marriage counseling based on religion and you cave immediately.
When a couple is at their worst they usually stop talking and start assuming things about the other person and start believing what is at best speculation. This is a death sentence.
Good marriage counseling helps to create a neutral environment for communication where the really difficult things can be talked through..
by kevin tillman.
editors note: kevin tillman joined the army with his brother pat in 2002, and they served together in iraq and afghanistan.
pat was killed in afghanistan on april 22, 2004. kevin, who was discharged in 2005, has written a powerful, must-read document.. .
SixofNine,
I spend a lot of time amongst the military and as part of my job have interviewd a lot of soldiers over the last three years. The soldiers are professional. They will do their job regardless of what anyone says or thinks. That is what I believe Tillman was refering to when he talked about bumber stickers and ribbons. Some of these men and women are on their fourth tour of duty. Regardless of their polical views, they do their job. Not all are Republican and not all are Democrats. They are like you and I except they believe that being a soldier is their duty to country. His message is important. VOTE, that is our duty as Americans. I did this morning already, I hope you do as well.
by kevin tillman.
editors note: kevin tillman joined the army with his brother pat in 2002, and they served together in iraq and afghanistan.
pat was killed in afghanistan on april 22, 2004. kevin, who was discharged in 2005, has written a powerful, must-read document.. .
I thought the war was finished. Must have missed something
Not looking for an arguement or a political debate, just replying to a previous poster who made the comment that
If we actually supported our soldiers, this war would probably end much sooner
by kevin tillman.
editors note: kevin tillman joined the army with his brother pat in 2002, and they served together in iraq and afghanistan.
pat was killed in afghanistan on april 22, 2004. kevin, who was discharged in 2005, has written a powerful, must-read document.. .
If we actually supported our soldiers, this war would probably end much sooner
If Rumsfeld would have taken the advice of General Shinsecki and gone in with 450,000 troops to begin with then this war probably would have ended sooner. We have the most professional, highly trained, qualified, selfless and determined military on this earth. They were sent into Iraq without the proper equipment (armor among other things) and without the proper troop strength. The most pathetic and unpatriotic theme that is beginning to unfold in Washington is that the military is at fault for the present condition.
If Rumsfeld supported our soldiers, this war would probably end much sooner.
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couldn't resist.. w.once.
I prefer your example lovelylil
You are consistent and always post an even tempered and well thought out message. I would refer to you as a "Christian", a follower of Christ.
Steam you are a poser, a person who habitually pretends to be something he is not.
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couldn't resist.. w.once.
Guess Who?
Mini-Miracle Wheat ?
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couldn't resist.. w.once.
Steam,
The Miracle Wheat analogy makes perfect sense
He took regular wheat, marked it up 4 or 5 times and sold it as "Miracle Wheat"
Kind of like taking the bible, interpretting it his way, and reselling it as "The Truth"
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couldn't resist.. w.once.
You forgot to mention that he brought the world "Miracle Wheat"...possibly his greatest accomplishment!
